Adjustment - kitty not allowed to sleep with us

[jerryprague]

Hello, first time poster here, long time cat owner. After eleven catless years, my wife finally agreed for us and the kids (7 and 6 years) to have a cat, Maine Coon

We've had the cat a month, she is about nine months old, came from a wonderful cattery with many beautiful, loving, well behaved cats. She was according to the owner, the most affectionate cat she ever had, used to sleep with her boys at night.

First night here she was very cuddly and affectionate. Now, she is comfy but basically sleeps by herself, and doesn't come to us much, like I would like and as I am used to by my previous cats who were snuggle buns.

Every cat I ever had was more than welcome to sleep with me in bed, including my former partners. My wife however, as a condition of getting our cat, said she was not allowed to sleep with us, as she is a very light sleeper and due to health issues needs a full and uninterrupted night's sleep. So, the cat sleeps in the big but closed living room at night (in a comfy 'cat hotel') by herself.

I feel very bad about this, and feel that the kitty would bond with us if she could sleep with us, however, due to the agreement, she is never, ever allowed into our bedroom. My wife is very firm on this one, no discussion possible.

Gentle friends, will she ever adjust? Given the situation, is there anything that I/we can do to help her feel loved and wanted and really affectionate and snuggly again? Thanks in advance for any advice and sorry if I am asking a previously asked question.