My MC is upset with me - how can I make him like me again?

[Fletch33]

I've got a 3yr old MC which I got as a kitten. He has always been very friendly, purrs when you stroke him, very vocal and engaging with me. He's never been a lap cat, he likes his space but does want affection.

However all this changed 3weeks ago. He came to the back door when I called him, then darted off sidewards back into the garden to play games, but as he swung round, he bumped his head on a small plastic bin next to the door. I saw the look on is face when he briefly stared at me - he though it was me that had hit him and it was my fault. He didn't realise he had bumped into it himself as its not usually there. i have never hit my cat. He spent the next 2 days avoiding me. Now, three weeks down the line, he will sit on the couch with me, but he won't purr. I can stroke him and he tollerates me, but I can tell he blames me still. He only chirps /meows at meal times, other than that he is punishing me. He is not nasty in any way. I have tried treats, extra strokes & attention but he just doesn't warm to me like he used to. He is aloof and distant with very hurt feelings.

Any suggestions how I can get him to like me again? I feel sad that he is sad.

[jckkerrison]

Oh bless how awful for you both..... I take it you picked him up & done all the "I am sorry" things at the time,now try leaving it as if everything is normal,our furries will make you feel guilty if they can & he sure has you going on one big guilt trip,one of mine used to play on it when he came out of cattery,wouldn't look at me,wouldn't come for his headbutts,wouldn't come down to the bedroom for early morning cuddles & I used to feel guilty as h**l more so as I knew he loved going to the cattery then one time I decided to be hard & ignore the hurt look & he was fine,got the "oh well I tried " didn't work so back to normal straight away.......
Good luck & hope you are soon back on good terms with each other....x

[Kylyjocoonz]

Poor little boy, I'm sure he will definitely be back to the cat you know and clearly adore very soon. Give him time and I agree act normal. Good luck x

[Fletch33]

hi, Thank you for your suggestions. I guess it will just take him a little time for him to come round